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“He who has known himself has already achieved knowledge about the depth of all.” ~The Book of Thomas the Contender

When we are born, we become an immediate recipient of external projection. We are either coddled with hope or greeted with disdain, expected to live up to expectations, or guided to repeat failures. Not only are we told how to act, but how to think, and from the very start what to believe. If we are fortunate, we are reminded to nurture our own minds and trust our innate intelligence, but more commonly we are taught how to avoid embarrassment…

A Day in the Life of a Marijuana Trimmer

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This is the account of how I accidentally went undercover as a marijuana trimmer for 7 days. You can call it stupid, but desperate times call for creative measures when you need to pay the rent.


Over the past few months, I have enjoyed walking by the ocean with my beautiful 22-year-old daughter while sipping our morning coffee. Most days we see a duo walking the opposite direction and smile in kind. A short elderly Jewish man and a 6’4” smiling Rastafarian with gold teeth. One recent day the Rasta and…

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“Free yourself from the inauthenticity and disempowerment of your story.” ― Steve Maraboli

In life we create stories of where we have been, what we have done, or what has been done to us. These narratives become a part of who we are and can be reflected in our environments, connections, and how we interpret others behavior. We use this identity to garner either positive or negative attention, feel superior and worthwhile, or often to unconsciously perpetuate a victimhood consciousness. What we have survived somehow becomes a vehicle to justify our shortcomings and lapses of judgment while continuing to delude…

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“Believing you’re a good person and actually being one are two completely different things.” Anonymous

We are all familiar with age-old stories of good versus evil and right versus wrong, we curate a collection of traits that we assign to decent people holding certain behaviors in high esteem. We establish these unwritten laws unconsciously crafting our experiences to anchor our core beliefs. If we were neglected, we may make it our mission that no one in our lives will ever feel the anguish of neglect. For us to take this on makes us feel good, as if we are good…

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“It’s never overreacting to ask for what you want and need.” ― Amy Poehler

Many of us have learned to align our actions with what others expect of us or with expectations we have created for ourselves to feel accepted by others. Too many times we are willing to settle or negotiate when it comes to honoring or fulfilling our needs for fear that they are either out of line, or do not deserve to be honored and fully respected by another. We are taught about compromise and memorize the “you can’t always get what you want” slogan by age…

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“And I would do anything for love, and I will be there til’ the final act.” — Meatloaf

The reality is no one is ever coming to save us. Not drugs, sex, relationships, and arguably not Jesus. We have convinced ourselves that the answer to our suffering lies somewhere other than our own hearts and divine abilities. We are unsure of our own power and strength, so we succumb to the idea of helplessness. Deep down there is an inkling we possess seeds and tools that if cultivated would blossom into the most beautiful crop, but we go door-to-door begging…

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“If your mate is not overall 51 percent valuable, you cannot stay with them and remain healthy. Being in a toxic relationship may be a sign of unconditional love, but it’s also a sign that you love them more than yourself. That is a sign of mental illness.” ― Christiane Northrup M.D.

If you were raised in an unhealthy environment where you were forced to grow up too soon, it is likely that similar to me you may have had some “challenges” in personal or professional relationships that have equated to quite an interesting life. Identifying unhealthy relationship dynamics and…

Tell That to my $3,000 Therapy Bill

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“Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.” ― Rumi

This world proves challenging at times, even more so when in the blink of an eye our purpose disappears. This can be life altering. The grief of loss is well documented for those losing a loved one through death, but the sadness and loss of purpose felt when a child moves out is treated as a comedic anecdote. Most often with visions of “empty nesters” roaming the wild plains in their long-awaited motorhomes.

Becoming a parent is like getting a tattoo. You only know what it feels like…

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“What is required for many of us, paradoxical though it may sound, is the courage to tolerate happiness without self-sabotage.” — Nathaniel Branden

There are many types of romantic relationships. Good, bad, mediocre, dangerous, life changing, short-lived, sometimes ethereal. One thing they all have in common is that from the time we are young, we are taught that we should have one. We should hunt for it or let it find us. We should become worthy of one, change for one, or even compete for one. Some of us witnessed horrible relationships as children and so we fear them, avoiding…

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“Growth demands a temporary surrender of security. It may mean giving up familiar but limiting patterns, safe but unrewarding work, values no longer believed in, and relationships that have lost their meaning.” — John C. Maxwell

We all have one thing in common as humans, the fact that we are here on this earth breathing and none of us know the hell why. We live on an emotional spectrum that ranges from elation to agony. Some of us work our whole lives to understand it all, trying to reside in one feeling more than another, always proving elusive. Depending on…

Cheyenne Skye Tanner, MBA

Wisdom comes at a great price yet the membership dues remain free.

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